Amidst the exposés and scandalous tell-alls that often pass for memoir, readers can be caught off guard by a heartfelt exploration of family history. And, having been caught off guard, we may come to realize that silence can be as scandalous as mayhem.

Philip Gambone’s father was not an abusive or neglectful parent. When he eventually learned that his son was gay, he did not suggest conversion therapy. Approaching 70, Philip realized that he knew very little about the kind, quiet man who had raised him.